Happy Australia Day!

Although I’m the least jingoistic person around these parts, when I saw this picture I thought “maybe a little patriotism isn’t such a bad thing?” 😉

So if you’re an Aussie reading this, I say “Advance Australia Fair, True Blue, Once a jolly jumbuck” and all that other stuff.

What we like to see in an Australian! 😉


I must see this movie or I will start shooting people

Older n' Last Time

The program for the 2010 Mardi Gras Film festival has been released. With trailers.

I have just seen the trailer and synposis for “Older n’ Last Time.”  I simply must see it immediately. I must have tickets immediately. No doubt Yoda will pfaff-pfaff about which movies he wants to see but I MUST see this one. Otherwise I will not be responsible for my actions!

In Older n Last Time David and John have been foster carers for the past 18 years and their two foster sons Rowen and Delk are leaving home. Rowen and his girlfriend are moving to the country and Delk and his boyfriend are moving in together. David wants to foster more children, but at 55, John is ready for a life without kids.

Josh, is Delk’s Boyfriend.

Josh is an only child.

Josh’s mother wants grandchildren.

She invites the boys to the Mountains for the weekend where she announces she has Sara and Katherine coming tomorrow to discuss the possibility of Josh being the father of the child the couple want to have.

Josh has never met this Lesbian couple let alone contemplated being a father.

Flashback – A stunning video

I’ve had a major flashback sitting here at the PC tonight. To one of my favourite video clips of all time. And to a song that I am still gobsmacked was not #1 in every country in the world.

I’m going back a decade to when this was released – “Stars” by Roxette. The first time I saw this clip it just blew me away. Initially because of the singing ducks, I must admit. I laughed and laughed and laughed. I also loved the gratuitous shots of Stockholm throughout the clip. I get an emotional bump from that every time I watch it.

What really gets me teary though (for some reason!) is the portrayal of the family towards the end of the clip. We see the couple married, then with their first baby, then with their young family and finally older after their kids have moved out. But they’re still in love and still together. Maybe it’s my idea of the perfect Swedish family? I don’t know but I often have a cry when I see that part of the clip.

Back in 1999 I was two years into running the mailing list and fan community for the pop group whose name shall not be mentioned and it was all go, go, go. That year I visited the UK and the Netherlands in the colder months and had a glorious summer holiday in Stockholm – staying with Yoda who was living there at the time.

It was July and the weather in Stockholm was perfect. About 21 hours of sunshine a day. The A*Teens were also in their prime and it was fun to be in Sweden on the day of release of one of their mega-hit singles. Yoda and I were watching the “Weekly Hit Warning” which showed the A*Teens clip on the hour. “Veckans Hitvarning Presenteras av Most Wanted Music” the announcer said every hour before the clip was shown and it stuck in my head. I still say it occasionally today to get a laugh and share a memory with Yoda.

We spent a sizeable chunk of that week with our best Swedish friend Gustav who was still a blonde teenager at the time! Flash forward a decade to July 1999 and both Yoda and I were staying at Gustav’s place in Stockholm and he’s decidedly no longer a teenager and not that blonde anymore 🙂

In April 1999, Yoda and I had been speeding down the highway from a town in the south of The Netherlands to Brussels in Belgium at about 150km/hr. Someone else was driving of course! I had a massive hangover from the night before and the car stereo was playing Roxette’s new “Have A Nice Day” album very loudly. People were asking me “what do you think” and all I could think was “I think you should turn it down before my head explodes.”

“Stars” was the highlight of that album and I expected it to be a mega-hit. Roxette weren’t in favour back then – they’d been “out of fashion” for a long time. But I really believed this song and this video were strong enough that it would just explode them back to the top of the charts. Seems very naïve today.

The fact that mainstream radio and the general public ignored “Stars” like a bad smell to me was testament to their stupidity. It didn’t stop the song and the video from being a special memory for me.

I did the Oprah Quiz and this is what it said….

Let's do Oprah's Quiz!


I did the “Who Are You Meant To Be” quiz on the Oprah.com site and here are the results.  They seem mostly accurate but with a few gigantic “what the?” clangers (e.g. careful with money???)



You are a leader: You approach everything as though you were born to be in charge. Confident, assertive, and decisive, you know what you want and you go after it. You also look out for family, friends, and community—you feel you know what’s best for them—and have no fear of confronting anyone who challenges your ideas. Taking the driver’s seat, you also generously donate time and energy to people and neighborhood projects.

What to watch out for: When you feel threatened, or others refuse to go along with your agenda, you can become confrontational and domineering, sometimes to the point of being dictatorial. Practice letting someone else take charge on occasion. Also try meditation; it can help you be-come more aware of your controlling impulses and ease the anxiety that may be provoking them.

Looking ahead: You discover your purpose when you take control of your environment. For you, finding a decision-making role is key. That could mean anything from producing a play to spearheading a global campaign for something you care about. In work, you’re suited for leadership positions in education, government, industry, finance, religious institutions, or politics. But you can find satisfaction anytime you’re given the autonomy to do things your own way.

Many people have two or three strong striving styles, and they can all be important in leading you to the person you are meant to be. If you have a few “highest” scores, read each matching description, and see what rings most true.

Striving to help: 11
Striving to be recognized: 14
Striving to be creative: 15
Striving to be spontaneous: 11
Striving to be knowledgeable: 13
Striving to be secure: 15
Striving to be in control: 18

You scored: 11

You are a nurturer: You are caring and supportive in your personal relationships as well as in your job. Unselfish and altruistic by nature, you often anticipate the needs of those around you before they are aware of them. If there is one thing that brings you satisfaction, it’s tending to others.
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Children in Need Single

This is totally gorgeous. The 2009 Children in Need medley. You can only be dazzled by the amount of work that must have been involved to create this. There’s a good background on the project here.

You can buy the download and the physical single as well. The download is available from 7Digital – when creating your account, just use a UK postcode like SE1 and that will ensure you can purchase from the store.

It’s for a good cause so go and buy it!

Matthew Mitcham is not circumcised

Matthew Mitcham is not circumcised

Nope, I'm not cut - satisfied now?

The things people search for on the internet……….

I’ve been having a look at the statistics for visitors to thebestjudge.com recently and have noticed some really interesting ways people find this site. The things people type into search engines never fail to bemuse me. Still, I suppose I’ve done the same thing so I shouldn’t be that surprised.

I’ve decided to answer some of the questions / search terms that frequently crop up and that somehow end up landing on http://www.thebestjudge.com.

First up – Matthew Mitcham. Australian Olympic Diver, prominent and fabulous out and proud Gay man. No, he is not circumcised. Yes, disappointing of course but, well, modern life in Australia and all that. Apparently his partner Lachlan is very, very well endowed.

That’s as much as I know and I hope that clears it up for all you curious Matt Mitcham fans.

Tom & Alex from TripleJ Breakfast

Tom & Alex from TripleJ's Breakfast Show

On a completely irrelevant side note…and this could just be a ruse to mention them again..and also an excuse to put a picture up of them… Australian radio network TripleJ’s breakfast DJs, Tom Ballard and Alex Dyson, are both uncircumcised.

Interestingly, Alex’s father made sure Alex knew about cleaning underneath his foreskin from a very early age. Good for Alex’s dad. Wish more Australian parents did the same.

Most Australian guys born in the last 30 years are uncut – prior to that the opposite was true.

Okay, what’s next on the list??

Well, we’re still on everyone’s favourite search term – circumcision. People want to know if they are, can they get it done, how to tell if someone else is  etc. etc. (Note to friends: See, it’s not just me!)

How do you know if you’re circumcised
Well, circumcision is one of my “special topics”as I’m sure my friends would tell you. To answer this question I have included a composite photograph showing an uncut penis on the left and a cut one on the right. I think it makes it pretty clear. You can click on the photo to see a bigger version of it.

Uncut penis on the left, cut penis on the right

Uncircumcised penis on the left, circumcised penis on the right

As far as the uncut/uncircumcised penis is concerned, please note that the skin that partially covers the head – the foreskin – can, in many cases, cover the complete head of the penis. The foreskin should retract when the penis becomes erect. If you are uncircumcised and you are having trouble or pain with the foreskin – perhaps it doesn’t retract at all etc. – you need to see your doctor. Yes it might be a little embarrassing but you don’t need to live with the problem and there are lots of ways your doctor can fix it.

Can I get circumcised? aka Can I get circumcised even though I’m older/an adult?
Yes you can. Some doctors specialise in it. You’ll possibly need to spend a bit of time wading through all the anti-circumcision hysteria – both on the internet and from much of the medicial profession. But a bit of research should help you find a sympathetic doctor. If your local doctor says no, then ask him to refer you to another doctor who will help you.

If you want to avoid all the psycho-anti-circ lobby and get some unbiased, clear information about circumcision, go to this link http://www.circlist.com/circhome.html which is a terrific resource.

How to tell if a guy is circumcised (at a bar for example)?
You can’t of course. Many American guys are, nearly all Jewish guys are, quite a few Muslim guys are….but there’s no definite way to tell upfront. You actually have to ask! Embarrassing, I know but that’s life all over, isn’t it?

Nokia E63 Mobile Phone

Nokia E63 Mobile Phone - Red

Nokia E63 Battery Life
Well, I’ve already done a few posts about my beloved Nokia E63 but in short….

The battery life is terrific. Yes, it does reduce after about 6 months of continual use but it is still good compared to many other phones. I’m still getting a few days between recharges even though I’m using it also for emails, twittering and taking photos here and there.

After the first few charges – where I let the battery completely drain and then fully charged it – I normally let it get down to about two bars before charging. If you’re on two bars then you actually still have quite a bit of juice left so there’s no need to panic.

The good thing also is that the battery included is a common Nokia battery and, if necessary, it’s pretty easy to buy a replacement one if you really, really need to.

Samsung 32lb350
Nope, there’s not a lot of English language information about this Samsung 32″/81cm LCD television on the internet. A few weeks ago I helped pick out this one for a friend who needed to buy a new TV quickly.

What I can tell you is this: it was easy to set up apart from attaching the stand (which isn’t mentioned until later in the book of instructions). The quality of the picture and sound is very good and my friend is extremely happy with it and would recommend it. The price was $699 as it is a Series 3 TV and has been superceded by Series 4, 5, 6 etc. You might even getter a better price if you can negotiate with someone who isn’t an arsehole like the guy who served me at Bing Lee Marrickville!

Saddle Bar Logo

The Saddle Bar, upstairs from the Midnight Shift

The Saddle Bar
This is a big one…lots of searches for this. The Saddle Bar being the new “men’s bar” upstairs at the Midnight Shift. I wrote a positive review because I really liked it as did my friend James. One person who has commented on this site has had a bad experience which he is having difficulty letting go of.

I think the Saddle Bar is a great addition to the Sydney Gay scene and I believe the management is good and positive and that the staff themselves are terrific. This, of course, is being written in January 2010 – if you’re reading this in 6 months time the story could be different.

The Midnight Shift have a website which covers both their downstairs bar and the Saddle Bar – but the information on the Saddle Bar is pretty sketchy – hopefully they’ll update it soon.

Right now I believe the Saddle Bar is a good place to be – it is a low-attitude, well run establishment and it’s the only one of its kind in Sydney.

So, there you go! (As Molly Meldrum would say)

And that’s the end of this little segment – I might delve into more unusual bestjudge.com search terms at a later point in time.

This is hilarious: Tom & Alex and Margaret Pomeranz

This is another promo for TripleJ’s Breakfast Show with the delectable Tom Ballard & Alex Dyson. But this one is genuinely funny. It has movie-reviewer-legend Margaret Pomeranz involved. Enjoy!